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The Passionate Love of a Husband and Father: How Quickly They Turn to Bitterness and Distance

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As I contemplate my own struggles as a father and husband, with multiple responsibilities and passions, I cannot help but wonder where a loving and obviously dedicated husband and father could become so distant and so bitter? As it is for so many families in this present "go and conquer"  society men have been forced to choose between their families and their heartfelt drive to accomplish. You add in the difficult times of a spouse with mental illness, the need for the closeness of a wife and a child presenting with behavioral issues produces a new frontier many families cannot navigate through alone. It is at this juncture where a family therapist can present new ways to see the family structure and its strength to overcome and adapt to a new way of functioning.  The Case of a Young Family and The Need for a Close Father and Husband             I had the privilege of working with a family that was fitting of this contemplation of ...

Morals in Marriage and Family Therapy

Society has drawn closer to the individualistic culture that has been evolving. An unknowing and intentionally morally neutral psycho therapeutic community has preserved the culture that shouts, “pursue the American Dream”, love yourself and leave those who do not love you, or give you what you want. In no way am I suggesting that all therapist are to take the brunt of this claim, rather I want to challenge the thinking in which the therapeutic field has taught about staying away from the obvious moral issues  clients divulge in sessions. More specifically call on the field of Marriage and Family Therapy to have more discussions about moral decisions with clients. Why Marriage and Family Therapy Should Promote Moral Responsibility             I believe, if Marriage and Family Therapist are to be genuine in our call for focus on the overall system of the family, we must be willing to discuss the moral issues in which ou...